5 Things Expectant Fathers Can Do During Labor
The time of labor is a special and intense moment, and your partner likely won’t have a clear mind as she works to bring your baby safely into the world. But what is your role in the delivery room? What can you do to support and reassure your partner? The best solution is certainly NOT to sit in a corner and watch. This is also a unique and new experience for you, and it’s essential to fully embrace it while providing meaningful support to your partner during childbirth.
So, what can you do in the delivery room to help your partner?
Here are some suggestions:
- Encourage her and remind her that “everything will be okay”
Your partner’s mood and positive mindset during labor can greatly ease the process. Your presence should make her feel good. She needs to trust your words and give her best effort. It’s important to do everything possible to keep her calm, so don’t hesitate to reassure her repeatedly that everything will go perfectly well and that she’ll soon be holding your baby in her arms. She wants to hear that things will be fine, so don’t let her be overwhelmed by the stress or fear she might feel at that moment. - Look into her eyes
Your gaze can express what words might not be able to convey at that moment. Looking into each other’s eyes will give you both the strength you need. By maintaining eye contact, she will feel your love, your support, and your confidence in her abilities. She’ll know that you’re with her through this journey. Eyes are the windows to the soul, conveying countless emotions, so your partner will draw courage and strength from your gaze to face labor. - Make her laugh
It might sound odd or even inappropriate to crack jokes during such a critical moment, but reminding her of funny memories involving the two of you can boost her mood and help her feel safe and confident. Avoid making dark or awkward jokes out of nervousness about the situation. Instead, use your sense of humor wisely to make her smile and relax, even if just for a moment. - Lend a helping hand (literally and figuratively)
It’s important for your partner to feel your presence throughout the process. Offer her your hand, hold hers tightly, rub her shoulders, or give her a gentle kiss. This is one of those moments when you need to show your love, care, and understanding. Let her grip your hand as tightly as she needs to for strength while pushing. This will reassure her that while she is the one giving birth, you are in this together—as one team, as one “unit.” - Prepare a playlist of her favorite calming songs for the day
Believe it or not, the expectant mom can enjoy her favorite music in the delivery room—songs that will help her relax and focus during labor. Create a playlist with tracks that calm her and lift her spirits, enabling her to concentrate and feel at ease before the final pushes and deep breaths.
Your active and supportive presence in the delivery room will not only be a memorable experience for you but will also significantly help your partner through this extraordinary moment.
